Boys, men, and sexual abuse: Stop normalizing it

Opinion by Jae-Kur Lockhart Student Reporter

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 At a moment’s notice, a child’s life could be changed and warped into a point of no true return. 

Men usually will not report or express this occurrence, well at least not like most women would. Women more or less express the situation after a period of time – if it ever comes up. 

What on Earth could I be babbling about? Well if no one else will say it, I will. So allow me to take my seat at the table and adjust my composition. 

Why are we not talking about sexual abuse among our youth – especially with our young men? True enough it happens to our young girls but why can’t we fathom it happening to our men? 

“Men won’t talk about it because they feel like it blocks their masculinity, whatever that means,” Kierra McDaniel, Junior health science major, said. 

It has been a seemingly societal understanding that since a man in perceived as “tough” and “strong” that he cannot bend his will to show his emotions because if he does, he will be considered “weak”. 

In essence, should we take a step back and honestly say that sometimes men really do encourage sexual abuse? They do it based on their own false sense of masculinity based on what they believe is right. 

“No one will say it, but a man really will encourage his 6 year-old son to grope the thigh of a woman or even grab her butt,” Kamisha Murray, Junior dietetics major, said. 

Now if the case and point is that a man (and sometimes woman) will encourage such an escapade for their little princes, what are they promoting for their princesses? 

At what point do you tell your daughter that it is ok for her to approach an adult man and reach for his extremities? Oh of course you wouldn’t dare. 

But it’s ok for your son because “boys will be boys”. 

Ladies and gentlemen, which one of your kids will you give condoms to on prom night – your son or your daughter? You can ponder it but we all know the answer to that. 

I think I might have just revealed another double standard. I am sure we all seen it but more than likely society tried to play it as a normal happening. 

Rapper, Lil Wayne, admits to having sex for the first time at 11 years old. While some would say that this was a bit too young of an age to have sex, I would bet more people would say, “Yeah, he’s the man!” 

Where is that same energy when it’s an 11 year-old girl? Well had that happened, she would be considered “fast”. 

Our young men are being sexually abused and some of them do not even know it. They may very well not even realize it for a long time because they were taught that it’s ok. 

Of course they could realize it sooner or even prevent it if we have this discussion with them now. 

I’ll leave the readers with this bit of advice: 

Stop normalizing sexual abuse. It promotes a generation of ridiculous principles that could yield more than just a slap in the face.